Four ways you can support your athlete through the pressures of youth sports
Parenting is tough and responding in a way that is not only supportive but beneficial to your child can be tricky some times. Understanding WHY your teen plays is so helpful in supporting him on his journey.
Today Susie and Kirsten discuss four ways to support your athlete as adversity occurs. When we have the tools as parents to support them, it can make for a much more enjoyable ride for both YOU and your child. It doesn’t have to be overwhelming.
Let’s do this!
Dan Mavraides is a top-ranked FIBA 3x3 professional basketball player and a 2020 Olympic hopeful. Prior to playing 3x3 professionally, he played in the top 5x5 leagues in Greece and Italy. He graduated from Princeton University in 2011 where he was the two-time team MVP and let the Tigers to an Ivy League Championship and NCAA tournament birth.
But for all of Dan’s success, which is tremendous, the most impressive part of his story is that he is a self-professed “late bloomer” and what gifts that gave him. It has taught him to be curious, become resilient and be grateful for every opportunity. He says he has probably more than compassion for others because his path wasn’t a straight line and the insight that he’s gained has helped him, now at the age of 30 continue to pursue his hoops dreams, one more time.
Dan’s personality is infectious. He’s also a motivational speaker, so anyone looking for inspiration for high school or college kids, he is outstanding at sharing his story and how never giving up is the key to success.
Austin Hatch is a survivor. A two-time plane crash survivor, he epitomizes what it means to be resilient. In 2003, at the age of 8, Austin’s mother, sister and brother were tragically killed plane crash. Eight years later, with many hours of hard work, the 6’6” basketball phenom was offered a college scholarship from his dream school, University of Michigan. Just nine days later, Austin would be aboard a plane with his father and “second mother” (he never considered her a step-mom) and this plane too would go down, killing both his parents and leaving Austin in a coma with severe injuries including traumatic brain injury.
Today, I was so honored to speak with Austin and hear him talk about how he made it to the University of Michigan through tireless work, unrelenting positivity that “a miracle is going to happen” and belief that he was truly blessed to have had all of his amazing family members in his life.
We can learn so much from Austin’s outlook as we parent and raise adults about what it means to be optimistic, even in darkest of times and what the belief in yourself and gratitude for the gifts you have been given can do for you.
Are you a sympathetic parent or an empathic parent? When your child “falls in a hole”, ie, he gets cut from a team, didn’t get the playing time he hoped he get, had a bad game, lost, do you “jump in the hole” with him or do you stand near “the hole” (proverbially hole, of course), ask good questions and see how you could help by witnesses his pain.
In today’s episode, Kirsten and Susie talk about several tools we find helpful when parents contact us to ask how best to help their child in a moment of crisis. Kirsten also shared a four step process to help your teen learn ANY NEW SKILL. Check it out, try it out and please, let us know how it goes!
We love hearing from you. Please feel free to rate and share this podcast on iTunes. Do you know another sports parent who could use some support in their journey to raising not only strong athletes but extraordinary kids. We’d be so grateful if you shared it with them.
Derek Cox was a D1 athlete who had never really considered playing pro football until a scout came to see him play in his senior year in college and told him he could become a “Priority Free Agent”…. Derek said he wasn’t exactly sure what that was, but liked the sound of it.
Because he wasn’t a First Round pick, Derek worked tirelessly with the hopes of landing a spot in the NFL…which he did. We spoke about the journey and and through the pro’s and now that he’s retired and raising his son with his wife, how have his ambitions and dreams shifted and what did he learn along the way which is helping him with his current dream of finishing his MBA and becoming an agent for players who are just arriving into the league.
It’s all about Balance is a theme for Derek. And while he talks about pursuing excellence with such clarity in everything he does from how he works out, to what he eats to who he surrounds himself with, he also is very aware that it takes balance to make it all happen.
For anyone with a teen athlete who aspires to make the team at the next level, whatever that may be— MS, High School or college, this is worth the listen.
One of the greatest gifts we can give this next generations (and ourselves) in the gift of inner peace. What if your child could possess a knowing that whatever they encounter, good or bad, they will be ok?
Rates of depression and anxiety are sky-rocketing. So much of it is caused by the fear of the unknown, the panic of the question that arises in everyone’s head, “What if I’m not enough?”
Susie and I give tools in this episode (good for parents to use, too!) to quiet the negative self-talk and create a daily routine which puts you on purpose for your dreams, goals and desires.
Perfect for the holidays when you need to decompress!
XOXOXO Kirsten & Susie
Sue Enquist was UCLA Softball’s first All-American, National Champion, and Hall of Famer. In 2006, Enquist wrapped up a 27-year career as head coach of the UCLA Bruins with a 887-175-1 (.835) record, making her the winningest softball coach among all active coaches.
On today’s episode we discussed how twelve years after retirement, softball is still her passion and through her business OneSoftball.com, they are helping inspire the player, organize the parent and educate the coach.
She is a wealth of knowledge on what “micro behaviors” as she calls them, make athletes successful and has tips for parents on how best to support their athletes at every stage of their development. You’ll love learning from Sue, we sure did!
My kid got cut- now what!?
Kirsten and Susie discuss what happens when our athlete gets cut… no matter what the level, whether it’s the middle school team or the varsity team or even at the college or pro level. They discuss the three different approaches we can take as parents to support them, which will give him/her the opportunity to feel the pain and move through it, together.
This week on the #RaisingAthletes Podcast, we are excited to have United States Navy SEAL veteran, Jason Booher on. While he is currently the leader of the management consulting firm, Northwest Harbor Solutions, Booher served 23 years as a commander in the SEALS, leading teams in everything from basic SEAL training, i.e., BUD/S to commanding hundreds of combat operations as well as driving integration of cross-functional intelligence teams. He currently serves as an advisor to the local Southern California public sector as well as at the most senior levels of U.S. Congress, professional teams including the LA Dodgers and at RedBull High Performance, as well as is a guest lecturer at Harvard and MIT on Leadership.
Jason's life experience as a leader in one of the US military's most exclusive and rigorous branches makes him the perfect person to talk to when we want to know more about raising resilient, gritty, hard-working kids. He shares some incredible insights which are completely transferrable to the coaching/playing world for how to build peak performance teams! (Hint: it starts with accountability from within.)
What is a post-grad year? And why would a student athlete choose to take this path? Today we discuss what the benefits are of an athlete taking an extra year to prepare for college and what the potential upside can be.
Alex Popp (pronounced Pope) is in his fifth season as Head Coach of Men's Basketball at Vermont Academy. During Popp's time at the Academy, the program has matriculated student-athletes to Harvard, UChicago, Vanderbilt, Butler, Tufts, Arizona, Colby, Louisville, Carnegie Mellon and many more. In 2018, Coach Popp's program produced an NBA player (Bruce Brown, class of 2016 of VA) and a McDonald's All-American (Simisola Shittu, class of 2018 of VA, now at Vanderbilt). Under Popp's tenure in 2016, the Wildcats won the prestigious New England Prep School Championship, and he was named New England Coach of the Year. Since 2015, Popp has sent 25 student-athletes to play NCAA college basketball.
Today we discuss a topic we often take for granted when we think of peak performance, SLEEP.
Gary Trudell, who’s family has owned the Custom Comfort Mattress Company here in Southern California for the last 35 years, and who is a father of three teen athletes himself, understands the importance
of young athletes getting good sleep to not only help their growing bodies produce much needed (HGH) Human Growth Hormone, but also to repair injuries, to help
the brain continue to develop and last but not least, to retain new learning.
One of the fun facts about his company, is that they work with a lot of pro athletes and because of their size, they have special requirements so they make a special 8 x10’ bed to accommodate those 6’8” plus athletes. How cool would that be to have one of those?
We spoke about the Five Ways Teen Athletes Suffer When You Don’t Get Enough Sleep and the fascinating study of the Stanford men’s basketball team, which shows the direct correlation between sleep and an increase in performance, both on the field/court and in the classroom.
We wrap it up with Gary giving us some tips to help get to sleep faster and then once you are asleep, to stay asleep longer. Our teenagers should be getting 8-10 hours of sleep each night. And unlike your cell phone bill, there are no “roll-overs”, if you miss it one night, it doesn’t help to sleep twice as long the next
We learned a lot about importance of getting good Zzzz’s. Please enjoy!
Dr. Tommy John, son of renowned Major League baseball pitcher, Tommy John Jr, who played in the league for 26 years, was the first person to come back in 1974 from the revolutionary surgery (which was subsequently named after him) which allowed him to continuing playing baseball for an additional 16 years.
Dr. Tommy John, like his father, also played baseball, and it was after a career ending shoulder injury, he went back to school to get his Master's Degree in Health & Human Sciences, so he could help all athletes on their journey to whole health.
Today we discussed the importance of giving our young athletes rest, proper nutrition and how to proactively raise a healthy athlete who can minimize injury over time. Dr Tommy has a proven four step method to help athletes RETHINK, REPLENISH, REBUILD and RECOVER.
This week on #RaisingAthletes, we speak with former Cleveland Cavalier NBA Champion, Channing Frye. He discusses the importance of trying things other than basketball. For example, his first passion was the trumpet.
He lays down what he looks for in an ideal teammate and who he aspires to be as one.
We discuss mindset and what it takes to make it at every level, how you need to show up, even when or especially when things don’t go our way.
At the very end, he shares with us Lebron’s secret weapon to success… it’s so good he uses it too!
If you are finding our podcast helpful, we’d be so grateful if you’d pop over to iTunes and write a review and share us with your other sports parenting friends.
Wait, You Can Get Paid to Do That?!
Today's guest #RaisingAthletes is D'Wayne Edwards, the Founder of Pensole Footwear Design Company and the former Creative Director of Brand Jordan. When D'Wayne was a young boy growing up in inner city Los Angeles, he had a passion for two things: Hoops & Drawing. When the hoop dreams faded at 17, he was able to turn his passion for drawing into a lifelong career, first at one of the Sports Industry's premier brands, Brand Jordan/Nike and later creating his own footwear design school.
Parents, we want our kids to have passion for their sports because of all the lessons they will learn along the way, but ultimately, we want them to find a life path that will not only feed their passion but also fuel their dreams.