In a recent interview, David Blaine (@DavidBlaine, Magician, Illusionist & Endurance Performer) was asked, "How do you overcome fear?"
This is a guy who does stuff most of us would consider "CRA-ZEE", like sit in a plastic box hoisted high above London for 44 days without food or water. What-eva!
His answer is awesome, though... "I announce whatever scares me to the world, before I've even figured out how I'm going to do it. And then I start working back from there. Knowing that I've commited to delivering X magic trick at Y date, forces me into action."
When I heard this, I realized I had just done the same thing and it worked brilliantly. I had an idea I'd love to try for almost a year now. I wanted to host workshops for mothers and daughters, at the beach, where we build community, connection and collaboration. Last year, I even went so far as to hire someone to help me run this event, but when it came time to execute, those Elphaba voices in my head jumped in, "What if no one shows up? What if too many people show up? What if people don't like it?" What if, what if, what if...
Panic set in, I realized I had never "announced" my date, so whew!, I was free to go on about my life pretending like it was never even a thought in my mind. Feeling a bit like a loser, but at least I hadn't failed, right? Wrong.
Nine months later, the thought came rushing back and I went so far as to mention it to a mentor of mine. She immediately turned to me, looked me in the eyes and said, "Kirsten, you should do this immediately." (Insert hammer hitting head emoji here). I literally ran home, created the flyer, picked the date and announced it. Holy crap, here we go.
YIKES! Scary as all get out but also amazingly exciting. This past weekend, I had my first event. There were 12 of us. It was awesome! (Yes, 6 people who had paid didn't show. Stuff happens, people). It's funny as I rationalize my fears to others, they tend to look at me cross-eyed and ask, "Whats the big deal? You do this kind of stuff all the time." Yes, AND- it's important to keep doing it.
So, what's your BIG announcement today?
"I'm going to make X$ by Y date in my business."
"I'm going to lose lbs by Y date, in time for my summer beach vacation."
"I'm going to speak up for myself in every meeting with my boss and tell him how I really feel."
Sometimes we just need to GET. IT. OUT. Let someone else know your intentions, hold yourself accountable. And go.
So, my next scary announcement is my first YouGO!Girl Coaching Retreat, which is going to be held in Park City, Utah, September 28- October 1, 2017.
Are you looking for community, collaboration and others to support you on your journey? Together, we'll chart new waters on the next chapter in your life, your new business, your body, whatever is top of mind for you right now. It's going to be so much fun, I can't wait! This will be VERY limited in size (max 8 women), I want all of the women to feel very cared for and heard, so if you are an introvert and wondering if this is the right place for you. Yes, everyone will be very much included. Please let me know if you'd like to get on the "interested" list, more details are coming soon! #thisaintyourmamasretreat
If you don't have anyone else to make your announcement to, reply to this email and announce to MOI... I love helping others step outside of their comfort zones. I'm here for ya, baby.